KODI munayamba mwakumanapo ndi mavuto ngati amene George ndi Emily anakumana nawowa? Palinso makolo ambiri amene amakhumudwa kwambiri akaona mwana wawo akuvutika ndi chinachake kapena ali wokhumudwa. Mwachibadwa, makolo amafuna kuteteza ana awo. Komabe, mavuto amene makolo omwe tawatchula pamwambawa anakumana nawo, kwenikweni anawapatsa mwayi wophunzitsa ana awo kuti azidziwa udindo wawo. N’zoona kuti zimene mwana wazaka zinayi angaphunzire sizingafanane ndi zimene mwana wa zaka 13 angaphunzire.

Komabe, muyenera kudziwa kuti n’zosatheka kuti muzimuteteza mwana wanu nthawi zonse ku mavuto amene angamakumane nawo pamoyo wake wonse. Mwana akakula, amasiya atate wake ndi amake ndipo amayenera “kunyamula katundu wakewake,” kutanthauza kuti amayenera kudziimira payekha. (Agalatiya 6:5; Genesis 2:24) Kuti ana azitha kukwaniritsa udindo wawo, makolo ayenera kukhala ndi cholinga chowaphunzitsa  kuti akadzakula adzakhale oganizira ena, achikondi komanso odalirika. Kuchita zimenezi sikophweka ayi.

Koma chosangalatsa n’chakuti Yesu anapereka chitsanzo chabwino kwambiri kwa makolo pa nkhani ya mmene iye ankachitira zinthu ndi ophunzira ake. Yesu analibe ana akeake. Koma cholinga chake posankha ndi kuphunzitsa ophunzira ake, chinali chakuti iwowo akatsala adzathe kupitiriza ntchitoyo. (Mateyo 28:19, 20) Cholinga cha Yesu chinakwaniritsidwa chifukwa patsogolo pake ophunzira akewo anatha kuchita bwinobwino ntchitoyo paokha. Nawonso makolo amafuna kuti ana awo akadzakula adzathe kudziimira paokha. Tiyeni tikambirane zinthu zitatu zokha zimene makolo angaphunzire kwa Yesu.

Yesu atatsala pang’ono kuphedwa, anauza ophunzira ake kuti: “Ndakupatsani chitsanzo kuti mmene ine ndachitira kwa inu, inunso muzichita chimodzimodzi.” (Yohane 13:15) Potengera zimenezi, makolo ayenera kuwafotokozera ana awo zimene angachite kuti adzathe kukwaniritsa udindo wawo komanso ayenera kuwasonyeza chitsanzo pa nkhani imeneyi.

Dzifunseni kuti: ‘Kodi ndimakonda kulankhula zinthu zosonyeza kuti ndimasangalala kukwaniritsa udindo wanga? Kodi ndimalankhula zosonyeza kuti ndimasangalala ndikamathandiza anthu ena? Kapena kodi ndimakonda kudandaula n’kumadziyerekezera ndi anthu amene amaoneka kuti zinthu zikuwayendera bwino?’

N’zoona kuti palibe munthu wangwiro. Tonsefe nthawi zina timaona kuti zochita zatichulukira. Komabe, chitsanzo chanu ndi chomwe chingathandize kwambiri ana anu kudziwa kuti kukwaniritsa udindo wawo n’kofunika kwambiri.

Yesu ankadziwa kuti zidzawatengera nthawi ophunzira ake kuti adzafike potha kuchita bwinobwino zinthu zimene iye ankafuna kuti adzachite. Panthawi ina iye anawauza kuti: “Ndili ndi zambiri zakuti ndikuuzeni, koma simungathe kuzimvetsa zonsezo pakali pano.” (Yohane 16:12) Yesu sanangofikira kuwasiya ophunzira ake kuti azichita zinthu zonse paokha. Koma anakhala nawo kwa nthawi yaitali n’kuwaphunzitsa zinthu zambiri. Ndiyeno atakhutitsidwa kuti angathe kuchita zinthu paokha, anawatumiza kuti akagwire ntchito imene anawapatsa.

Mofanana ndi zimenezi, makolo sayenera kusiyira ana udindo kapena ntchito zoyenera munthu wamkulu. Komabe, anawo akamakula, makolo ayenera kuona zinthu zoyenerana ndi msinkhu wawo. Mwachitsanzo, makolo ayenera kuphunzitsa ana awo kuti azitha kusamalira thupi lawo, kusamalira chipinda chawo, kuchita zinthu pa nthawi yake ndiponso kugwiritsa ntchito bwino ndalama. Mwana akayamba sukulu, makolo ayenera kumuthandiza kudziwa kuti ntchito imene amapatsidwa kusukulu ndi yofunika ndipo ndi udindo wake kuigwira.

Udindo wa makolo siwongopereka ntchito kwa ana awo. Iwo ayeneranso kuwathandiza kuti athe kuchita bwino ntchitozo. Mwachitsanzo, George, bambo amene tamutchula poyamba uja, anazindikira kuti china chimene chinkachititsa kuti mwana wake Michael azivuta kwambiri akamuuza kuti achotse zidole zake chinali chakuti ntchitoyo inkamukulira. George anati: “M’malo mongomukalipira kuti achotse zidole zakezo, ndinamusonyeza njira yabwino yogwirira ntchitoyo.”

Kodi iye anachita chiyani? George anati: “Choyamba, ndinakhazikitsa nthawi yoti iye azichotsa zidole zake madzulo aliwonse. Kenako, ndinkamuthandiza kuchotsa zidolezo m’chipindamo ndipo tinkayamba ndi mbali imodzi ya chipindacho. Tinkagwira ntchitoyo mokhala ngati tikusewera n’kumapikisana kuti tione amene angachotse zambiri. Pasanapite nthawi, tinazolowera kuchita zimenezi madzulo aliwonse tisanakagone. Ndinamulonjeza kuti akamaliza ntchitoyo mwamsanga, ndiziwonjezera nthawi yomuwerengera buku la nthano asanakagone. Koma akalephera kumaliza  ntchitoyo mwamsanga, ndizimuchepetsera nthawiyo.”

Yesu anali mphunzitsi wabwino motero ankadziwa kuti munthu angaphunzire zinthu mosavuta akamazichita. Mwachitsanzo, Yesu ataona kuti ophunzira ake adziwa zokwanira, anawatumiza “awiriawiri kuti atsogole kupita mu mzinda ndi malo aliwonse kumene iye adzafikako.” (Luka 10:1) Komabe sikuti anangowasiya kuti azikagwira ntchitoyo mmene akufunira. Asanawatumize, iye anawapatsa malangizo omveka bwino. (Luka 10:2-12) Ophunzirawo atabwerera n’kumuuza mmene ntchitoyo inayendera, Yesu anawayamikira ndiponso anawalimbikitsa. (Luka 10:17-24) Iye anasonyeza kuti ankawadalira kuti angathe kugwira ntchitoyo ndiponso anawayamikira.

Kodi mumatani ana anu akakhala kuti akufunikira kuchita zinazake zovuta? Kodi mumaonetsetsa kuti asachite zinthuzo poopa kuti akhumudwa ngati atalephera? Mwachibadwa, mungafune kuteteza mwana wanuyo kapena kungomuchitira zinthu zovutazo.

Koma ganizirani izi: Nthawi iliyonse imene mumateteza mwana wanuyo, kodi iyeyo amaphunzirapo chiyani? Kodi amaona kuti mumam’dalira ndipo mumaona kuti angathe kuchita zinthu payekha? Kapena amaona kuti mumam’tengabe ngati kamwana koti sikangathe kuchita chilichonse pakokha?

Mwachitsanzo, kodi Emily, mayi amene tamutchula uja, anathetsa bwanji vuto la mwana wake? M’malo molowerera, iye anaona kuti ndi bwino kumuuza Jenny kuti akakambirane ndi aphunzitsi akewo payekha. Motero iye anathandizana ndi Jenny kulemba mafunso oti akawafunse aphunzitsiwo. Kenako anakambirana nthawi yabwino yoti akalankhule ndi aphunzitsiwo. Ndipo anayeserera mmene zikakhalire pokambirana ndi aphunzitsi akewo. Emily anati: “Jenny analimba mtima kukalankhula ndi aphunzitsi ake ndipo iwo anamuyamikira chifukwa chochita zimenezi. Iye ananyadira kwambiri ndi zimene anachita ndipo nanenso ndinanyadira.”

Mukamakonda kutchinjiriza ana anu kuti asamakumane ndi mavuto, ndiye kuti mukuwawononga chifukwa sadzatha kuthana ndi mavuto. M’malo mwake, alimbikitseni powalola kukwaniritsa udindo wawo paokha. Kuchita zimenezi ndi imodzi mwa mphatso zamtengo wapatali zimene mungawapatse.