alag-alag desha de kanoon anusar is di paribhasha vakho-vakhri hai, par aam taur te “ashleel chherrkhani” da matlab hunda hai, kise naal os di marzi to bagair sareerak sambandh banaune ja kayi vaar kise naal zabardasti karni. is vich balatkar atey bachya ja naujavana da lingi shoshan karna vi ho sakda hai. kayi vaar jinha te asi vishvas karde han, ohi bachya da lingi shoshan karde han, jive rishtedar, doctor, adhyaapak ja dharam guru. jinha nu ashleel galla keh ke ja sareerak taur te havas da shikar banaya janda hai, ohna nu dhamki ditti jandi hai ki je ohna ne kise nu dassya, taa ohna di khair nahi.

 ik sarvekhan anusar, har saal sirf amreeka vich hi lagbhag 25% lokaa naal ashleel chherrkhani keeti jandi hai. ihna vicho adhe jane 12 to 18 saala de hunde han.

•   bible ashleel chherrkhani di ninda kardi hai. bible lagbhag 4,000 saal pehla hoi ik ghatna bare dassdi hai. sadoom sheher vich do aadmi aaye atey havas di bhukhi bheerr ohna de pichhe bhajji. is karke yahovah ne os sheher da naash keeta. (utpat 19:4-13) lagbhag 3,500 saal pehla moosa nu ditte kanoon vich rab ne ghar de lokaa naal jinsi sambandh banaun to manha keeta si jis vich ashleel chherrkhani vi shamal si.​—leviya 18:6.

•   ziadatar chherrkhani jaan-pachhaan vale hi karde han. apne bachya naal sex bare gall karo naa di angrezi kitab dassdi hai: “balatkar de tinn mamlya vicho do mamle idda de hunde han jis vich peerrit viakti doshi nu jaanda hunda hai. bahut sare mamlya vich doshi koi ajnabi nahi hunda jo achanak aa ke ohna nu havas da shikar banaunda hai.”

•   ashleel chherrkhani munde-kudiya dova naal hi hundi hai. amreeka vich lagbhag 10% munde ashleel chherrkhani da shikar hunde han. ik sangathan anusar jinha mundya naal ashleel chherrkhani keeti jandi hai, ohna vich “eh dar baith janda hai ki idda di chherrkhani hon karke oh samlingi ja ‘namard’ bann gaye han.”

•   ashleel chherrkhani diya vadh-diya vardata to hairani nahi hundi. bible vich pehla hi dassya gaya si ki ‘aakhri dina’ vich bahut sare lok “nirmohi,” “vehshi” te “asanjmi” ho jaange. (2 timothius 3:1-3) eh augun ohna lokaa vich saaf-saaf nazar aaunde han jo apni havas poori karan layi doojya da faida chukkde han.

•   ashleel chherrkhani pichhe is da shikar hon vale di galti nahi hundi. kise naal vi ashleel chherrkhani nahi keeti jani chaheedi. ashleel chherrkhani karan vala hi apnia kartoota layi zimmevar hunda hai. par tusi chaukas reh ke apne naal hon naal vali ashleel chherrkhani to bach sakde ho.

•   tyaar raho. pehla to tyaari karo ki je koi tuhade te sex karan da dabaa paunda hai, taa tusi kee karoge. dabaa paaun vala bhave tuhada koi rishtedar ja oh viakti hi kyo na hove jis naal tusi dating kar rahe ho. arin naa di naujavan kehndi hai ki je tusi kise vi tarha de halaat layi tyaar rehna chahunde ho, taa tuhanu sochna chaheeda hai ki tuhade te kehrre khatre aa sakde han te ohna khatrya vich tusi kee karoge. oh dassdi hai: “shayad idda karna tuhanu moorkhta lagge, par idda de halaat paida hon te tusi ihna de shikar hon to bach sakoge.”

   bible dassdi hai: “tusi is gall da poora-poora dhyaan rakho ki tusi moorkha vang nahi, sago budhiman insaana vang challde ho. . . . kyoki zamana kharab hai.”​—afsiya 5:15, 16.

   apne aap to puchho: ‘mai odo kee karangi, jado koi mainu galat tareeke naal hath laaunda hai?’

•   utho chale jaan di yojna banao. ik sangathan sujhaa dinda hai ki tusi ‘ik ajeha shabd chuno jis nu bolan te tuhade dosta ja ghardya nu pata lagg jave ki tusi museebat vich ho. is layi jado tusi ik ajehe viakti naal hunde ho jis da ravaiya tuhanu sahi nahi lagg reha, taa tusi apne ghardya ja dosta nu phone kar ke ohi shabd keh sakde ho te os viakti nu pata vi nahi challega. tuhade dost ja gharde tuhanu lain aa sakde han ja os viakti nu phone kar ke koi bahana banaa sakde han taaki tusi utho aa sako.” par je tusi idda de halaata vich fasoge hi nahi, taa tusi bahut sariya mushkla vich pain to bach sakoge.

   bible dassdi hai: “syaana taa bipta nu vekh ke luk janda hai, par bhole agaha vadh ke kasht bhogde han.”​—kahauta 22:3.

   apne aap to puchho: ‘kise museebat vicho niklan layi mai kehrri yojna banayi hai?’

•   apnia hadda thehrao te ohna vich raho. misal layi, je tusi dating kar rahe ho, taa apne naal dating karan vale naal gall karo ki kis tarha da chaal-chalan sahi hai te kis tarha da nahi. je os nu laggda hai ki is tarha karna moorkhta hai, taa tuhanu os viakti naal dating karan di lorr hai jo tuhadiya kadra-keemta da aadar karda hove.

   bible kehndi hai: “pyaar . . . badtameezi naal pesh nahi aaunda, apne bare hi nahi sochda.”​—1 kurinthiya 13:4, 5.

   apne aap to puchho: ‘mere myaar kee han? kis tarha da chaal-chalan dhukva nahi hai?’