kujh tarha di gapp-shapp nuksan pahunchaun vali hundi hai. misal layi, oh jhooth jo jaan-bujh ke tuhade naa nu badnam karan layi bolya janda hai. par bhave ki koi gapp-shapp inni gambheer na vi hove, taa vi is naal dukh pahunch sakda hai, khaas karke odo jado eh gall os viakti duaara failayi jandi hai jis bare tuhanu laggda si ki oh tuhada dost si.—zaboora di pothi 55:12-14.

 “mainu pata lagga ki meri ik saheli meri pitth pichhe kehndi hai ki mai lokaa di koi parvah nahi kardi. eh jaan ke mainu vakayi dukh lagga! mainu samajh nahi laggdi ki oh idda di gall kive keh sakdi si.”—ashli.

 sachayi: chahe galla failaun vala tuhada kareebi dost hai ja nahi, par eh jaan ke khushi nahi hundi ki dooje lok tuhade bare buriya galla keh rahe han.

 lok shayad kayi kaarna karke galla failaun jinha vicho kujh eh han:

 dilchaspi. insaan ik-dooje naal galla karniya pasand karde han. is layi kudarti hai ki asi ik-dooje naal (atey ik-dooje bare) gall karde ha. darasal, bible sanu hallasheri dindi hai ki asi kujh hadd tak doojya vich dilchaspi layiye.—filippiya 2:4.

 “gall karan layi hamesha lok hi sabh to dilchsap visha hunde han.”—bianca.

 “mainu eh gall mann-ni paini ki mainu eh jaan-na pasand hai ki baaki lokaa di zindagi vich kee ho reha hai atey is bare doojya naal gall karni pasand hai. mainu pata nahi kyo, par idda kar ke maza aaunda.”—keti.

 vehla sama. bible samya vich lok “apna vehla sama naviya-naviya galla dassan te sunan vich hi laaunde san.” (rasoola de kamm 17:21) ajj vi ehi gall sach hai!

 “kadi-kadayi jado koi karan nu gall nahi hundi, taa lok apne aap gall banaa ke is bare gall karde han.”—joana.

 aatam-vishvas di kami. ise karke bible apni tulna doojya naal karan de jhukaa bare chetavni dindi hai. (galatiya 6:4) afsos di gall hai ki kujh lok apne vich vishvas di kami karke doojya bare galat galla failaunde han.

 “nuksandeh gapp-shapp karan valya to ohna bare eh galla pata laggdiya han. is da aksar matlab hunda hai ki oh os viakti naal dilo irkha karde han jis bare oh galla failaunde han. oh galla faila ke apne bare changa mehsoos karna chahunde han atey apne aap nu yakeen divauna chahunde han ki oh os viakti nalo change han.”—fil.

 sachayi: chahe tuhanu changa lagge ja na, par lok doojya bare galla karange jis vich tusi vi shamal ho.

 zahar hai ki tusi apne bare keeti jandi har gapp-shapp nu rok nahi sakde, par tusi eh faisla kar sakde ho ki tusi is nu sunn ke kidda pesh aaoge. je tuhanu pata laggda hai ki tuhade bare sare pase galla fail rehiya han, taa tuhade kol do raah han.

 pehla raah: nazarandaz karo. aksar sabh to vadiya hall hunda hai ki is nu nazarandaz karo, khaas karke je gall maarri-moti hai. bible da asool laagu karo: “tu apne ji vich chheti khijh na kar.”—updeshak di pothi 7:9.

 “mere bare ik gall failayi gayi ki mai kise munde naal dating kar rehi ha jis nu mai kadi mili vi nahi si! eh inni ku bachkana harkat si ki mai is gall nu hass ke chhadd ditta.”—alice.

 “gapp-shapp khilaf sabh to vadiya hathyaar tuhadi vadiya neknaami hai. bhave tuhade bare koi jhoothi gall failayi jandi hai, par jado lok tuhadi changi neknaami dekhange, taa kujh lok hi os jhoothi gall te vishvas karange. tuhade bare sachayi samne aa javegi.”—alison.

 sujhaa: likho ki (1) tuhade bare kee keha gaya hai atey (2) tuhanu sunn ke kive lagga. ik vaar jado tusi os gall te “apne mana” vich soch-vichaar karoge, taa tuhade layi os gall nu bhulauna ziada saukha hovega.—zaboora di pothi 4:4.

 dooja raah: os viakti naal gall karo jis ne gall failauni shuru keeti si. kujh mamlya vich tuhanu shayad lagge ki failayi gayi gall inni gambheer hai ki tuhanu os viakti naal gall karni paini jis ne is nu shuru keeta si.

 “je tusi os viakti naal gall karde ho jo tuhade bare galla faila reha hai, taa shayad os nu pata lagg jave ki os ne tuhade bare jo keha, oh tuhanu pata lagga gaya hai. nale is tarha khull ke gallbaat karan naal tusi mamle nu suljha sakde ho.”—alice.

 jis ne tuhade bare galla failaiya han, os viakti naal gall karan to pehla hetha ditte bible de asoola te gaur karo atey apne aap to naal ditte savaal puchho.

•   “gall sunan to pehla jehrra uttar dinda hai,— eh oh de layi moorkhtayi . . . hai.” (kahauta 18:13) ‘kee mainu sari gall pata hai? kee eh ho sakda hai ki jis viakti ne mainu gall dassi hai, os nu sunan vich koi galti laggi hove?’

•   “har koi sunan layi tyaar rahe, bolan vich kahli na kare atey jaldi gussa na kare.” (yakoob 1:19) ‘kee gall failaun vale naal gall karan da eh sabh to vadiya sama hai? kee mainu bharosa hai ki mai mamle di janch kar ke gall karan ja reha ha? ja kee eh vadiya hovega ki mai kujh sama langhan deva taaki mera gussa thanda ho jave?’

•   “jis tarha tusi aap chahunde ho ki doosre tuhade naal pesh aaun, tusi vi ohna naal ose tarha pesh aao.” (matti 7:12) ‘je gall failaun vale viakti di jagah mai hunda, taa mai kidda chahunda ki koi viakti mere naal gall kare? mai kis tarha de mahaul vich mushkal bare gall karni chahunda? kehrre shabd te pesh aaun da kehrra tareeka sabh to asarkari hai?’

 sujhaa: gall failaun vale viakti naal gall karan to pehla likho ki tusi kee kehna hai. fir ik ja do hafte intazar karo, likhiya galla nu dobara parho atey dekho ki tusi likhiya galla vich kehrriya tabdeeliya karniya chahunde ho. nale apne mata, pita ja kise samajhdar dost naal gall karo atey os to salah lo.

 sachayi: zindagi vich hon valiya kayi cheeza di tarha asi apne bare failaiya galla te control nahi kar sakde. par is da eh matlab nahi ki eh tuhanu control kar lain!