sirf sareerak sambandh banaun naal hi sex nahi keeta janda. sex karan vich hor vi bahut kujh shamal hai. shayad kujh jane apne aap nu kuaare kehen kyoki ohna ne kise naal sareerak sambandh nahi banaye, bhave hor sabh kujh keeta hove.

 maukhik sambhog, guda-sambhog ja kise de gupt anga nu palosna vi sex karna hi hai.

 mukh gall: jinha ne maukhik sambhog, guda-sambhog te hathrsi keeti hai, oh apne aap nu kuaare nahi keh sakde.

 bible dassdi hai ki sareerak sambandh viah to baad sirf ik aurat te ik aadmi vichkar hi hone chaheede han. (kahauta 5:18) is layi jehrra viakti rab nu khush karna chahunda hai, os nu viah to pehla kise vi tarha da sex nahi karna chaheeda.​—1 thassluneekiya 4:3-5.

 kayi kehnde han ki bible purane zamane di kitab hai atey eh ajj de zamane layi dhukvi nahi hai. par yaad rakho ki ajj de zamane vich hi anchahe bache paida ho rahe han atey talaak ja jinsi bimariya vadh rehiya han. vakayi, ajj di duniya vich koi vi naitik myaara bare salah den de kabal nahi hai.​—1 yuhanna 2:15-17.

 jado tusi ihna galla bare sochde ho, taa bible de asool sahi laggde han. mann lo, kise ne tuhanu 1,000 dollar ditte han. kee tusi kothe to oh paise thalle sutt dyoge taaki koi vi ohna nu chukk lave?

 sex karan bare vi tusi ise tarha da faisla karna hunda hai. 14 saala di siara taimi kehndi hai: “mai kise vi aese viakti layi apna kuaarapan aeve nahi guaauna chahundi jis da shayad saala baad mainu naam vi yaad na rahe. sex karan da tohfa anmol hai jis nu aeve nahi guaauna chaheeda.”

 mukh gall: bible kuaare lokaa layi myaar thehraundi hai ki ohna nu viah to pehla sex nahi karna chaheeda te ohna da chaal-chalan shudh hona chaheeda hai.​—1 kurinthiya 6:18; 7:8, 9.

•   kee tusi mannde ho ki sex sambandhi bible de vichaar sahi han ja bahut sakht han?

•   kee tusi mannde ho ki je kudi-munde da viah nahi hoya, par oh ik-dooje nu pyaar karde han, taa sex karan vich koi kharabi nahi hai?

 dhyaan naal soch-vichaar karan to baad bahut sare naujavana ne sex na karan atey shudh chaal-chalan rakhan da faisla keeta. ohna nu na taa kade apne faisle te pachhtauna paina te na hi kise gall di ghaat mehsoos honi. dhyaan dyo ki kaiya ne kee keha:

•  “mai khush ha ki mai kise naal sex nahi keeta. viah to pehla sex karan karke mansik, sareerak te jazbati peerra aaundi hai. ihna to bachna koi maarri gall taa nahi hai.”​—emily.

•  “mainu khushi hai ki mai kise naal vi sex nahi keeta. nale mainu eh soch ke changa laggda hai ki mainu jinsi bimariya laggan da zara vi khatra nahi hai.”​—eelen.

•  “mai apnia kayi hamumar kudiya ja apne to vaddiya kudiya nu eh kehnde sunya hai ki oh sex karan to baad pachhta rehiya han. nale oh kehndiya han ki kaash ohna ne intazar keeta hunda. mai ohna vang galti nahi karni chahundi.”​—vera, 19.

•  “mai kayi lokaa nu dekhya hai ki jo apne kuaarepan nu guaaun ja bahut sare lokaa naal sex karan karke bahut ziada dukhi han. mere khayal mutabak is tarha di zindagi jeeuna bojh hai.”​—deen.

 mukh gall: sex karan da dabaa ja partava aaun to pehla tuhanu pata hona zaroori hai ki tusi kee vishvas karde ho.​—yakoob 1:14, 15.

 je koi tuhanu sex bare tuhade vishvasa bare puchhda hai, taa tusi kee kahoge? eh tuhade halaata te nirbhar karda hai.

 “je koi mera mazaak uda reha hai te os da irada sirf mera mazaak udaun da hai, taa mai uthe kharhi ho ke bas sundi nahi rahangi. mai kahangi, ‘tainu is naal kee? mai jo marzi karaa’ atey mai utho chali javangi.”​—koreen.

 “dukh di gall hai ki school vich kujh bachya nu doojya te rohab jama ke barra maza aaunda hai. je oh is irade naal mere to savaal puchhde han, taa mai javab nahi devanga.”​—david.

 kee tuhanu pata hai? kayi vaar yisu ne mazaak udaun valya nu koi javab hi nahi ditta.​—matti 26:62, 63.

 par odo kee, je koi viakti tuhade vishvasa bare jaanan layi savaal puchhda hai? je tuhanu laggda hai ki oh viakti bible da aadar karda hai, taa tusi os nu 1 kurinthiya 6:18 da havala de sakde ho jithe likhya hai ki jehrra viakti viah to pehla sex karda hai, oh apne hi sareer de khilaf paap karda hai yani apne sareer da hi nuksan karda hai.

 bhave tusi ose same bible varto ja na, par zaroori hai ki tusi poore bharose naal gall karo. yaad rakho ki tuhanu apne aap te maan karan da hakk hai kyoki tusi naitik taur te shudh rehen da faisla keeta hai.​—1 patras 3:16.

 “bharose naal javab de ke tusi dikhaunde ho ki tuhanu apne vishvasa atey apne kamma te kise vi tarha da koi shakk nahi hai atey tusi jo karde ho, oh sahi hai. nale tusi eh sabh is karke nahi karde kyoki tuhanu is tarha karan layi keha gaya hai.”​—jil.

 mukh gall: je tuhanu bharosa hai ki sex bare tusi jo faisla keeta hai, oh sahi hai, taa tusi doojya nu apne vishvasa bare samjha sakoge. shayad tuhanu ohna de ravayiye to hairani hove. 21 saala di malinda dassdi hai: “mere naal de kamm karan vale meri tareef karde han ki mai aje tak sex nahi keeta. oh is nu ajeeb gall nahi samajhde. ohna nu laggda hai ki eh sanjam te neki di nishani hai.”

 sujhaa! je tuhanu sex sambandhi apne vishvasa te apna bharosa hor pakka karan di lorr hai, taa “mai sex bare apne vishvas kive samjhava?” naa da abhyaas download karo. nale naujavana de savaal​—vivharak javab (hindi) kitab vi dekho.

•    bhaag 1 de 24ve adhiaye da visha hai, “kee sex naal sadde rishte vich sudhar hovega?”

•    bhaag 2 de panjve adhiaye da visha hai, “viah to pehla mai sex kyo na karaa?”

 “mainu ‘naujavana de savaal’ kitaba vich dittiya daleela bahut pasand han. misal layi, bhaag 1 de saffe 187 te misal ditti gayi hai ki viah to pehla sex karna kive ik mehnge haar nu muft vich den vang hai. tusi apne aap nu kaudiya de bhaa vech dinde ho. saffa 177 te dikhaya gaya hai ki viah to pehla sex karna is tarha hai jive kise sohni painting nu pair saaf karan layi vartna. par mainu bhaag 2 de saffe 54 te ditti misal bahut pasand hai. tasveer naal likhya gaya hai: ‘viah to pehla sex karna os tohfe nu kholan vang hai jo aje tuhanu ditta hi nahi gaya.’ eh idda hai jive tusi oh cheez chori kar rahe ho jo kise hor di hai yani tuhade jeevan saathi di.”​—victoria.